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Guest Commentary
Speaking for myself
Published Thursday, 24-Sep-2009 in issue 1135
Much has been written in this publication and others about the boycott of the Manchester Grand Hyatt (MGH) and my professional relationship with them. I have spoken little, but have become increasingly frustrated about the misrepresentations made about me, Hyatt, Manchester and the boycott. I believe it’s time to speak for myself – clear and unadulterated.
I have been in public relations for over 30 years. I am openly gay and have been throughout my career – I came out in 1978. I started and sold the largest gay-owned PR firm in the world, represented almost every national GLBT organization at some point in my career; helped actors and athletes out of the closet; and have been honored by GLAAD, AIDS Project Los Angeles, California Life Lobby and Congregation Kol Ami. I married my longtime partner last summer and, in lieu of gifts, asked my friends and family to donate to Equality California. I say this not to grandstand, but so you may understand that my engagement with and commitment to the GLBT community is unwavering, deep and ever-present in all I do.
My consent to engage as a consultant with Manchester and Hyatt was informed by my desire to help resolve the issue and to make a friend out of a foe – not about my pocket. I decided to work with MGH because I believe that we all make mistakes and that people are entitled to forgiveness if they learn from them, apologize and make amends. I was called by the MGH to meet and discuss the ways I might help resolve the successful boycott. I agreed to meet and listen to their side. What I found out is quite different than what has been portrayed.
Doug Manchester acknowledged that his contribution to “Yes on 8” two years ago was a mistake, apologized, vowed never to donate to an anti-gay marriage initiative again, and pledged a total of $125,000 to GLBT causes.
In my mind this is a “win” for our community. I believe boycotts can be an effective and necessary tool, but boycotts are not an end, but a means to an end. I have come to believe that the leaders of the boycott have separate agendas from our community; using the boycott to advance their personal and professional goals. This was clear at the recent anniversary rally when only a dozen or so showed-up – the leaders of the boycott and paid union organizers.
I am not anti-union. I grew up in Flint, Mich. and know firsthand the good unions can do for people’s lives. But this is not a union issue. The GLBT issues I am fighting for and the union issues are not inherently tied together, contrary to what some members of our community want you to believe. They are two separate issues and the community is beginning to recognize that transparency. It is also important for people to know that among the organizers of the boycott are paid union workers – this is not a grassroots movement – it is a well-organized attempt to put union pressure on the hotel.
The staff at the MGH is one of the happiest and best paid in San Diego as measured by employee turnover and salary comparisons. MGH has a diverse employee population, including gays and lesbians, who are represented at every level of the property. These workers are the real victims of the boycott – the front desk clerks and room attendants – the very people the union is purporting to help. They are not being helped; they risk losing hours and money because of this boycott.
Proposition 8 passed with 52 percent of the vote. A shift of five percent of the voters would mean that we could have legal marriage for everyone in California. The way we are going to change people’s hearts and minds is by building bridges and educating people, not trying to destroy businesses and reputations with motives that are not talked about.
It is also worth considering that if we, as a gay community and as activists, remain incapable of recognizing when we have achieved a victory, continue to waste time, energy and resources on negative campaigns and initiatives against someone that has already become an ally, we won’t win because we’ll be mired in the futility of preaching to the converted when we should be moving on to other efforts and dialogues.
Ultimately, I urge each of you to make up your own minds – but do it based on the truth and all the facts. Let’s move forward.
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McNeil says:

No LGBT Organizations will accept Manchester's Blood Money. Bragman holds no weight in our community, especially after he joined Manchester's payroll.
All LGBT org's in this city have signed onto the pledge: Say No To Manchester's Money!
http://saynotomanchester.org/
The Boycott will not be bought off with hotel vouchers!

Sep 24, 2009 4:03 PM
EQCA says:

Equality California has endorsed the boycott and won't take Manchester's buy off money!

Sep 24, 2009 4:04 PM
The Hyatt's Side of the Story says:

No kidding, the Hyatt's story was different from what the community and the people think??

Shocking revelation!

Of Coarse the Hyatt is going to tell you that Bragman. And Of coarse because they are paying you, you will regurgitate it.

You must think we are stupid

Sep 24, 2009 4:09 PM
Concerned Banquet Server says:

The workers never shared in the spoils and riches during the hotel's success, so why would they take the fall during the boycott.

Im sorry Mr Bragman, but my wife is friends with a few of the housekeepers at the Manchester Hyatt. and No, they are not happy. The working conditions are awful. The only reason why people dont quit is because they have to put food on their family's table.

The housekeepers were protesting these issue two years before the boycott and Manchester's donation to Yes on 8.

But thanks for writing the Hyatt's company line

Sep 24, 2009 4:15 PM
Pat says:

I think it's really important that we stand with labor on this boycott. Doug Manchester's attempt to "buy us off" with credits at his hotel was just crazy! I'm so glad that the LGBT community is continuing to be a part of this boycott.

Sep 24, 2009 4:30 PM
Loud Protests at the Manchester says:

The Anniversary press conference was not a protest, people werent supposed to show up. It was the same weekend as pride.
Ask the people in the Hyatt's neighborhood about the protests. Hundreds of people are down there weekly protesting and picketing. Ask the cops who show up every time!

Sep 24, 2009 4:31 PM
ProxyVox says:

While it's wonderful that Howard Bragman has done much for our community and claims to be in touch with labor - I don't agree with his point.

Manchester was advised ahead of time about the ramifications that such a large donation would have on the community. He and his business have suffered the consequences. As a result from this highly successful boycott most companies large and small will think twice before making contributions to anti-gay causes. In a rough economy he made a poor business choice.

His "pledge" is insulting to say the least and will not only never restore marriage to Californian families but is nothing more than a transparent attempt to drive his own business.

For Howy to claim the we need to build bridges... is very true. Hearts and minds need to be changed but they will never change with Papa Doug. He has been very clear that he thinks there is something fundamentally wrong with our LGBT community. He has been strong in that he will never support full equality. End of story there.

Labor has been one of the longest standing institutions to support full LGBT equality and has once again shown us with the AFL-CIO's(American Federation of Labor and Congress of Industrial Organizations) historic move to fully support our community.

Bottom line for me is that Machester is going to fall on the wrong side of politics and will go down in San Diego's history as donating to discrimination. Labor has been a strong ally and will continue to be.

Sorry Howard - thanks but no thanks. I'll stick with labor and not make bed follows with someone who can't stand the thought of me getting married someday.

-Love Warrior

Sep 24, 2009 4:31 PM
The Movement says:

Sorry, Howard. We're not buying. This boycott is only affecting one thing: Doug Manchester's pocketbook. When a businessman uses the money he generates from his business to promote injustice, we have to take action.

Sep 24, 2009 4:33 PM
Linda says:

The $125,000 was turned down because it was a joke! He wanted to give us credits to hold our events in his hotel. I'll never set foot in that place, not ever!

Sep 24, 2009 4:36 PM
A Married Couple says:

We were lucky to be married last year while we had marriage in California, and we're sad every single day when our friends who are finally ready to get married are denied that right. It's unfair, and Doug Manchester helped make it happen. He hasn't made any true attempts to prove he's sorry -- why would we stop boycotting him now?

Sep 24, 2009 4:40 PM
AJ Beedie says:

To be honest, this is the first I've heard that Doug Manchester has apologized for his donation. Like the rest of our community I hold a negative opinion of Mr. Manachester and have supported the boycotts of his properties because of his actions. It doesn't seem to me that Mr. Manchester is doing a very good job using his PR money to convince me that he doesn't continue to hold views that would relagate me to second class citizenship. Perhaps if he invested some of his time and considerable resources to show the community he was truly repentant for his ill-conceived donation perhaps he would build a bridge to our community that we would be willing to cross. Throwing some money at us doesn't really demonstrate that he truly regrets the action he took to years ago to support bigotry in our country.

Sep 24, 2009 4:45 PM
Marriage Equality USA - San Diego says:

We are proud of our partnerships with people and organizations that support full equality regardless of gender, gender identity,or sexual orientation. We proudly endorsed EFCA and stand by our partnerships with Labor. We support the boycott.

Sep 24, 2009 4:45 PM
Manchester Still Doesnt Get it says:

Didnt he just donate 32,000 dollars to Meg Whitman for Gov.
Whitman is violently anti Gay and also supoprted Yes on Prop 8. If Manchester was sorry he wouldnt be supporting right wing anti lgbt candidates for Governor!

Sep 24, 2009 4:52 PM
Charles Pratt says:

Mr. Bragman you are speaking for Doug Manchester's money not for yourself. The LGBT community supports the housekeepers and will never be bought off by Manchester. And we will not be convinced that bad is good by a hired- gun PR flack. I do hope Local 30 will demand equal time from GLT for an honest guest commentary, and in that piece we will get the truth, not an insult to the readers intelligence like this "guest commentary."

Sep 24, 2009 5:39 PM
Queer Californian says:

nice try. wonder how much $ per word you got paid to write this?

also- in the same light, is papa doug going to pay a housekeeper millions of dollars to talk about how great it is to clean twice the rooms as what's considered safe in the hotel industry?

Sep 24, 2009 5:45 PM
JR says:

You are dismissing out of hand the union workers who stood by us; it is our turn to stand by them, unequivocally. We know who our real friends are -- and we know about building coalitions: labor has stood by us since the Coors boycott. What's more, unions are the backbone of this nation, and regardless of our relationship with them, _this_ lesbian says: UNION YES.

As for Manchester, he can never undo the damage he has done, and we're not stupid enough to fall for his blood-money offer.

I don't buy your reasons for selling out your fellow LGBTs either, Mr. Bragman. Not for a New York minute.

You -- and Manchester -- must really think the rest of us are a bunch of idiots.

Sep 25, 2009 6:37 AM
Former Front Desk Agent says:

Boycott the Manchester Hyatt!!!!

Sep 25, 2009 10:25 AM
Buffy says:

Manchester wasn't sorry he helped eradicate our rights, he was sorry it garnered so much bad publicity and a boycott for him. His blood money is worthless and your attempt to make us out to be the victimizers is crude. Manchester doesn't care about his employees any more than he cares about us. He only cares about his profits.

Boycott Hyatt.

Sep 25, 2009 1:43 PM
Sean says:

Well if Manchester is really sorry, he can contribute 125,000 to repeal prop 8 and settle his labor dispute fairly. In my mind that would prove that he is really sorry. I suspect that as someone who publicly displays giant toothy grins shared with the likes of Katherine Harris(in the hotel Lobby!), Doug M. is really familiar with how to lie and cheat. He knows he can use you Howard, and you are paying for it with your reputation, I suggest you bail out on him yourself before the grime becomes a permanent stain.

Sep 25, 2009 2:37 PM
Ex Manchester Employee at Del Mar says:

I used to work for PBX which was contracted to Mannchester's hotels. I worked many shifts at Manchester's hotels. He was such a jerk to everyone around him, he acted like owned us. He would walk onto the set n just start bossing people around and cussing them out. true story. I ultimately quit working for PBX cuz it was so bad.

Sep 25, 2009 9:50 PM
Luke says:

Thanks for the guest commentary. I have considered your words and strongly stand by my original decision.
BOY COTT!

Sep 26, 2009 12:07 PM
Robert Cruickshank, Courage Campaign says:

It is easy for Doug Manchester to claim an apology for his significant and important donation to the effort to put Prop 8 on the ballot, since Prop 8 is now part of California's Constitution. With that donation he has personally damaged the lives of untold numbers of Californians.

If Manchester wanted to demonstrate to California that he wishes to atone for his actions, he could take affirmative steps to support the repeal of Proposition 8.

Our understanding is that many of the workers at the Manchester Hyatt in San Diego do not agree with Mr. Bragman about their treatment at MGH, and that many of these workers continue to desire union representation. We at the Courage Campaign believes their efforts deserve support, particularly in light of Manchester's actions in support of Prop 8, and in light of his ongoing failure to work to undo the damage he caused by that support.

The Courage Campaign will continue to endorse the Manchester boycott.

Sep 26, 2009 5:45 PM
Joseph says:

I would be more in synch with the vitriol directed at Doug Manchester -- who I understand is a Catholic and was folowing his own religious beliefs when he made the anti-gay marriage contribution -- if similar boycotts and demonstrations were being directed at other groups that opposed gay marriage.

For example, the conservative churches in poor neighborhoods that are attended by the Latinos and blacks who overwhelmingly opposed gay marriage because they are Southern Baptist or Catholic.

Oh, but going against those groups would be politically incorrect (it also might get you a bloody nose). It is only the white guy wearing a suit who can be guilty.

Let's have an honest discussion about the labor dispute at the hotel.

Just what are the working conditions and what are the workers paid?

So far, we have not been given this information.

We're asked to take one side in a dispute that we know nothing about.

And the only justification for this is that "labor has been supporting us."

Huh? I've never seen any sign that "labor" supports the gay community. And I say that having been in the machinists union.

So let's put a dollar figure on that "support" and hear about the other specific things that labor has done "for" the gay community.

Sep 27, 2009 1:37 PM
Rey says:

What's the difference between a lawyer and a prostitute?

Prostitutes stay in the back pages of the GLT.

Sep 29, 2009 12:58 PM

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